Sibling Love

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Introducing a new baby into the home comes with joy but it also comes with challenges. One challenge that can occur is ensuring a healthy sibling relationship. There are lots of things you can do to encourage a good sibling bond and reduce any resentment siblings might have towards the new baby. Here are five tips to help older siblings adjust: Continue reading

Mom, You Are Important, Practice Self Care!

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If you have ever been on a plane you likely remember the flight attendant instructing you to always put your oxygen mask on before helping others. That is the perfect example for self care during motherhood. New babies can be demanding and before you know it your needs slowly get pushed to the back burner. While meeting your infant’s needs is important it can be impossible to do if you are suffocating. Here are a few quick self care tips: Continue reading

Sleeping Through The Night, The Elusive Milestone

IMG_20140703_194548Simply put, our culture is obsessed with infant sleep. Whether it is the pediatrician or a random stranger on the street, if you have a baby in your arms the question, “how does she sleep?” almost ALWAYS comes up. The frequent questioning leads many new parents to worry constantly about how, when, and where their infant is sleeping. I am not really certain why it is any business of a stranger, or why we feel compelled to ask (I’m guilty of asking too!) its become a normal question, as normal as asking someone how they are. It has become common small talk, but unfortunately it causes deep worrying for many new parents. It also leads to lying or sugar coating because we are so worried about what others will think. One UK study found that a third of parents lie about how well their children sleep.1 Dr. Sears mentions in his one book2 an even higher number of parents lie about how well and where their infants sleep. Under pressure new parents lie which in turn causes even more new parents to worry why their child is not sleeping all through the night. Next time you cousin Suzy brags about her eight week old sleeping twelve hours a night, remember she just might be sugar coating the truth! Continue reading

Finding Your Village

In past centuries, most women witnessed childbirth multiple times before they experienced labor for themselves. Many women also assisted relatives with household duties and child care during the immediate postpartum period. When it was their turn to enter into motherhood, they knew what to expect. They had practical support and they had other mothers to model after. While some women still have this experience, many women in our culture do not. Continue reading

A New Normal

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Many expectant parents wonder how long it takes for life to get back to normal after their new addition arrives. We hear our providers request a six week appointment to check healing, we hear six weeks of bleeding, and we hear about six week maternity leave. All the talk about six weeks leads us to believe that by six weeks we will be back to life as normal, feeling good, well rested, and back into our daily routines. While some adjust to a new normal by six weeks that is often the exception, not the rule. It is not uncommon to take several months to feel better physically and emotionally and even longer to find your new normal with your new family member. you will find your new normal, but it is unrealistic to expect to go back to your pre-baby normal. Continue reading